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Home Buying: How to Control the Stress and Get the House

by Lori Madden 12/19/2021

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Home buying can feel like a daunting task and usually encompasses more than just the financial and logical aspects. There are stressors surrounding the processes, possible rejections, the waiting game and a host of other personal factors that can influence your sentiments toward the whole ordeal. Fret not. Here are a few ways to ease the tension of your home buying stressors and get through the process successfully.

Declined & Approved

It’s always disheartening to get declined for something you were hoping for. The thought of the possibility may even lead to added stress during the process, but fear not. You have options. While it’s not uncommon to receive certain letters of declination or have a seller decline your offer, you can diminish the stress leading up to it by having solid contingencies in place.

Instead of setting your sights on just one house, try setting your sights on a type of house and choose a few in the region that you’d like to settle into. That way, if one of your offers is declined for another buyer, you’ll still be able to move on to the next home on your list with little to no search time. The same goes for loans.

If you understand your exact financial capacity, you’ll be able to apply for the right loan for you. Likewise, if you lack those few extra points on your credit score, explore all of your available options such as FHA or USDA along with conventional loan providers. If a conventional lender rejects your request for financing, you know where you stand and you can look to secure financing elsewhere.

Patience & Processes

One thing that can drive homebuyers crazy is the waiting. Sitting back and waiting for other parties to sign paperwork, examine offers or script up the inspection reports can make life a little extra stressful. Sometimes your mind will play tricks on you or you’ll ruminate on possibilities other than your desired outcome. Take a deep breath. There are ways to combat this.

When you sign or submit paperwork, be sure to ask about standard turnaround time for the decision or updates. Add a decent buffer of about 2 to 3 days to that estimate for any unforeseen issues that might come up.

Make sure that you also double check your portion of the work. While you may not control the time certain processes take, you can control your end of the processes. Make sure you have the right documentation, provide the correct information and ask if there is anything else that you need to provide during your communications and meetings.

Negotiation & Confidence

There will most likely be times when negotiations take a strange turn and require compromise. That’s okay, but take the time to remind yourself. While both parties typically understand that there is room for compromise and adjustments in contracts and agreements, but sometimes rationale gets lost in the stress. Remind yourself that you have a confident team behind you that includes your real estate agent, loan officer and the teams both bring with them.

You could also set parameters for yourself. Allow yourself a range for how far from your original deal you’re willing to stray. Giving yourself that mental wiggle room will help decrease the stress associated with not knowing where your own boundaries are and can aid in building confidence when the negotiations come to a head.

Let yourself breathe and take a step back once the processes start. There are going to be some ebbs and flows when buying your home, but the result is definitely worth the effort. Have confidence in your decisions and your team, and you’ll be able to control the stress instead of the other way around.

 

About the Author
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Lori Madden

As a Florida native growing up in Sarasota, I have seen my hometown grow from a sleepy coastal town to a highly sought-after destination along the shores of the Gulf of Mexico. After working in Chicago for 5 years, I returned to Sarasota and saw it through a new lens and really began to appreciate what makes Sarasota so desirable, including temperatures that allow for year round outdoor activities including tennis (a personal favorite), golf, boating, kayaking, fishing, paddle boarding, or just relaxing and/or shelling on our pristine sandy shores, including Dr. Beach’s #1 beach in the United States for 2017, Siesta Key! Sarasota’s cultural amenities are many and diverse, appealing to a wide range of arts lovers. Downtown Sarasota has become a destination in itself, drawing many new developments for those who want to be within walking distance of Main Street's offerings and the picturesque bayfront and marina. Foodies will find an eclectic mix of locally owned and operated restaurants offering something for everyone, and there are now Farmers Markets every day of the week in various locations throughout Sarasota, but the Saturday morning Farmers Market in downtown Sarasota draws the biggest crowds. Since 1988, my passion has been selling real estate, representing both buyers and sellers. I have been recognized by my clients and customers for an uncompromising work ethic and dedication to helping them achieve their real estate goals. Relying on my experience as a real estate paralegal and being highly organized, I am able to help make the transition between contract and closing a smooth one for my clients. With an eye for interior and landscape design, I've been known to pitch in and help Sellers minimize and/or reorganize their belongings in order to stage their home to maximize its sale potential. I specialize in out of state buyers looking for their piece of paradise along the Gulf Coast and make it a priority to keep them up to date on our quickly changing local real estate market. I welcome the opportunity to share with you all Sarasota and her surrounding islands have to offer!