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Making Friends in a New City

by Lori Madden 03/04/2019

Moving to and making a new home in any new city is an exciting time. You have boxes to pack, plans to make, a new job to learn, a new home to find, and new places to explore. With all the anticipation of the move, you may not have given much thought to making friends in your new city.

The usual suspects

Of course, you’ll have co-workers to befriend, but that could be a small pool from which to choose. And, if you're bringing your family with you, they'll want to make new friends too. While school-aged children will find friends in their classrooms and activities, preschoolers and stay-at-home spouses don’t always have built-in relationships. Here are some places where you might discover new friends.

Gyms

Whether you’re an avid Cross-Fitter or casual Zumba class attendee, you’ll find like-minded members at local gyms. Signing up for a class before or after work puts you in the same location as others with similar schedules. Daytime classes more likely have other parents with small children with which to bond.

Houses of worship

Local churches, mosques, synagogues, temples, and meeting houses may offer groups, classes, and organizations for you no matter where your interests lie or what schedule you have. Often, daytime gatherings offer childcare or meetings of like-minded folk focusing on a common cause or charity.

Clubs and groups

If you belong to a club in your current home city, check to see if there are branches or chapters in your new city. Ask your leadership for a letter of introduction to smooth the way into your new home’s group.Members of fraternities or sororities should check out chapters in their new city too. 

Hobbies and interests

If you have a hobby or a developing interest in learning about one, craft and hobby stores typically offer classes and workshops where you can meet people with comparable interests.

And if you’re shy?

Making new friends isn’t necessarily easy if you’re naturally introverted or shy. A couple of helpful hints:

  • Be a listener. You don't have to impress everyone you meet with your conversational skills. Just pay close attention to what they want to talk about and ask a few leading questions: "How long have you know about …?" or "Where did you first become interested in …?"
  • Smile. A ready smile attracts people to you and makes you appear friendly (which, when you’re trying to make friends, is a good thing to be).

Make friends of friends’ friends

Remember, while you may not “gel” with everyone you meet, this person might have a friend that is your new-best-friend in waiting.

About the Author
Author

Lori Madden

As a Florida native growing up in Sarasota, I have seen my hometown grow from a sleepy coastal town to a highly sought-after destination along the shores of the Gulf of Mexico. After working in Chicago for 5 years, I returned to Sarasota and saw it through a new lens and really began to appreciate what makes Sarasota so desirable, including temperatures that allow for year round outdoor activities including tennis (a personal favorite), golf, boating, kayaking, fishing, paddle boarding, or just relaxing and/or shelling on our pristine sandy shores, including Dr. Beach’s #1 beach in the United States for 2017, Siesta Key! Sarasota’s cultural amenities are many and diverse, appealing to a wide range of arts lovers. Downtown Sarasota has become a destination in itself, drawing many new developments for those who want to be within walking distance of Main Street's offerings and the picturesque bayfront and marina. Foodies will find an eclectic mix of locally owned and operated restaurants offering something for everyone, and there are now Farmers Markets every day of the week in various locations throughout Sarasota, but the Saturday morning Farmers Market in downtown Sarasota draws the biggest crowds. Since 1988, my passion has been selling real estate, representing both buyers and sellers. I have been recognized by my clients and customers for an uncompromising work ethic and dedication to helping them achieve their real estate goals. Relying on my experience as a real estate paralegal and being highly organized, I am able to help make the transition between contract and closing a smooth one for my clients. With an eye for interior and landscape design, I've been known to pitch in and help Sellers minimize and/or reorganize their belongings in order to stage their home to maximize its sale potential. I specialize in out of state buyers looking for their piece of paradise along the Gulf Coast and make it a priority to keep them up to date on our quickly changing local real estate market. I welcome the opportunity to share with you all Sarasota and her surrounding islands have to offer!